Someone in a class asked me recently
whether I had ever worked with anyone suffering from tinnitus.
I had, in fact, worked with someone with
tinnitus, but that was over three decades ago. It happened
during a short weekend workshop so we were not able to go
into much depth, nor were we able to take the piece of work
as far as it would have been possible to go on a longer
workshop.
However something very interesting did
occur in the time we did have which showed me how people
can fail to pay accurate attention to their experiences
in ways that have the effect of tending to trap them deeper
in their problem.
It started during the afternoon on the
first day of the workshop when someone brought up their
problem with tinnitus, which he described as a constant
ringing in his ears that he couldn’t get away from and that
just about drove him crazy. I had heard about tinnitus in
the ears, but had never had a chance to work with anybody
who suffered from it.
Unlike this student, most of us don’t
notice constant unchanging noise in our ears, but, perhaps
like me, you have on occasion noticed a sort of white-noise
in your hearing — a high-pitched hiss that is just barely
perceptible. Sometimes, once you notice it and start to
pay attention to it, it seems to get a bit louder.
At times when I had noticed this faint
hissing noise I wondered why it was rare to hear it. As
to what I was hearing, I assumed that it was just a background
artifact of hearing, somewhat like the soft hiss on a radio
station during moments of “dead air” when nothing was being
broadcast.
Once I focused on it, it seemed possible
to keep hearing the hiss, but sooner or later, my attention
would drift, or some other noise would grab my attention,
and I’d no longer hear the background noise. Most of the
time, I wasn’t even aware that I was no longer hearing it
— “out of sight, out of mind” (or in this case, “out of
hearing…”.
So I was curious when the student said,
“The ringing is there constantly! If you haven’t
experienced it, you can’t imagine how annoying it is!”
I could certainly imagine how annoying
that might be but my attention was drawn to the word, “constantly”.
Could his experience be that different than the faint
background hiss I’d experimented with? Was he really saying
that the ringing in his ears was nonstop? That it was happening
every moment of every day when he was awake?
To make sure
that we were actually talking about the same thing, I decided
that the first thing was to clarify this question. So I
asked him, “Do you really mean that you hear the ringing
in your ears every moment, that is, literally all the time?
“Yes, every moment. That’s what’s so
absolutely infuriating about having tinnitus. It never stops,”
he said with vehemence, as if I was maybe a bit thick to
not see this as obvious.
I don’t why, but something prompted me
to ask him more or less the same question again, though
in a slightly different way — just to be sure. “Do you mean
that there is no time, ever, when you don’t notice it?”
He thought for a moment, then said, “Well,
yes… of course. There are some times when I’m paying attention
to something else and I don’t hear it...” He paused… then
said, “But it’s still there!”
Now this was fascinating! After just
insisting that the tinnitus was there all the time — every
moment — he was now saying, of course there are some times
when it’s not there.
“That’s interesting,” I said, “it’s there
all the time, but sometimes you don’t hear it. I wonder,
can you tell us, if you sometimes don’t hear it, how do
you know it’s still there?”
“Because it’s always there, and when
it isn’t, it’s right back there again a moment later,” he
said, “so it must have still been there. I just wasn’t paying
attention to it for a moment.”
“But maybe,” I said, “it actually did
go away for a moment, which is why you couldn’t hear it…”
I paused... “In any case, at least it appears that there
are times when it is not there for you… So it isn’t
actually quite true that you hear the tinnitus
‘all the time’".
This seemed significant enough to me,
but I could tell that he wasn’t quite persuaded. Unfortunately,
we had come to the end of the workshop day and we had to stop until
the next day. I said we could pick up this issue again for
a little bit of time the next day if he had any other thoughts
or insights between now and then. So we left it at that.
In workshops like this I always give
an opportunity each morning when we start a new day to bring
up questions, insights, or results of experiments from the
day before.
The student with the tinnitus raised
his hand and said, “I’d like to start off. Something really
interesting happened last night. I usually read for a while
in bed before going to sleep, and at one point there I was,
lying in bed thinking about what you said about the tinnitus
maybe not being there sometimes. I decided to check if it
was there right at this moment. I kind of caught myself
taking my attention to my hearing to listen if I could hear
it. I was surprised to realize that I couldn’t hear it.
It wasn’t happening at that moment. But sure enough, as
soon as I focused my attention on my hearing to look for it, the
ringing was there. Not so loud in the beginning, but
it got louder as I focused on it.”
“I realized that, like yesterday, I would
normally have assumed that the tinnitus had been there all
the time, and I could prove that just by taking my attention
to it. And every time I did, there it was, proving that
it really was there all the time. Or at least, it had been
enough to it prove that to me before you challenged me about
it yesterday.”
“It was quite an eye-opening moment.
Later in the evening and this morning, I began to notice
more times when I didn’t actually hear the tinnitus. In
the beginning, because of my assumptions, I immediately
went to look for it and there it was. After a few times,
I also realized that when I went to look for it, it didn’t
come back instantly. There was a distinct period of at least
several seconds before the tinnitus began to emerge out
of the searching for it. I had never noticed that it took that much
time.”
“In fact, it then really struck me… I
could distinctly see now that each time I had already noticed
that the tinnitus wasn’t there — but what was there
was silence.
Before I went to look for it, the tinnitus
actually was not there. To find it, I had to turn my attention to
my hearing and go listen for it in order to find it. Even
then, it wasn’t there right away! Only when I stayed searching
for it for several seconds, did it slowly, and almost reluctantly,
appear. It was almost like my looking for it was what
made it appear!”
“This is a real surprise for me. I’m
very excited about the possibilities here…”
We had to stop there because there
were other people in the workshop will also needed some
time with their issues so we left it that he was going to
keep playing around and see what happened.
As I thought about it later, after the
workshop, I wondered how to interpret what had happened.
What had it showed us? Was it that his tinnitus had not
really changed, but now at least, he knew that it wasn’t
this constant thing. How much less infuriating a problem
would it become for him if he no longer believed he was
plagued with it every single moment of every day? Maybe
he would be able to enjoy the silences when he noticed them.
Or maybe even could it be the case where
his attention focusing on it was intensifying the natural
background noise into a something louder? And could his
belief about it being there all the time, trap him into
a negative reaction loop that lent the “tinnitus” a sense
of horrible reality that he was stuck with? In other words,
could it be a case of you get what you look for?
If he was able to continue to play with
his tinnitus rather than react to it and fight it, would
the silences become longer and more frequent? And would
the moments of tinnitus decrease and maybe even
eventually disappear?
I never did find out because, unfortunately,
my teaching schedule was such that I left the next day for
another workshop in a different city and was not able to
follow up with the student to find out what happened. But
I have often wondered.

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